One of the interesting things about having a low emotional intelligence is I keep discovering new things about myself.
You all know how I feel about gay rights, and marriage equality in particular. (And for those of you who are new to this journal, let me break it down in simple terms: DO WANT.) I'm at least conceptually bisexual, so that may have something to do with it, but even if I was straight I'd still feel this strongly about it.* ...However, I'm not vocal about it in my public life. Now granted, I'm not vocal about much of anything in my public life, but still, even an introvert wants to declare herself once in awhile. "Here I
stand sit, with a book; I can do no other."
Enter the
National Marriage Boycott: a student movement whose members pledge not to marry until the right of gay couples to wed is recognized. The repeal of DOMA (boo, hiss) seems to be the stated goal for most of these pledgers, which is probably a good thing. Those couples waiting around for all 50 states to make gay marriage legal will probably be living in sin for a long time.
"What a great idea," thinks I. "What a nice ring. And hey, it won't be a hardship at all to keep that pledge. Where do I sign up?"
...Except I didn't. I dithered, and then I closed the tab in a fit of Feeling Uncomfortable. I've been working a little harder on trusting my gut lately, but I still would like some semblance of a rational explanation that my gut isn't providing. I never thought marriage was something important to me, or a goal that I had. I can't even
picture myself being married. And yet, and yet.
I don't know. Maybe I'm looking at it the wrong way. I think part of me would be appalled if some friends came to me and said, "Because
you're not allowed to marry Yomiko Readman**, we're going to forgo that happiness in our own lives." Maybe that's all it is.
And yet, and yet.
*At least I hope so. Otherwise, I need to have a long talk with me.
**Just for example.